How I’ve learnt to ride the Wave. Pt. 10 Acknowledging Emotions
In my last note I wrapped up the topic of how I use “Being Aware in the Moment” as a tool to help Ride the Waves in my life. This week I am going to start discussing Acknowledgment” of emotions in the moment.
Now the topic of emotions can go quite deep and can be addressed from many and varied angles. This is perfectly fine as there is no “one fit” solution for all. What I will share with you is my perspective gained from my personal experiences. I hope it will give you some insight and inspiration to go into the depths and find what works for you.
In society most people have been trained to suppress their emotions. Being told you cannot say this, you cannot feel that, it’s not normal, it’s not appropriate, and so on. Fears of judgement or not fitting in have been embedded whin us. Its been handed down from generation to generation. My upbringing to a large extent was no different. I was a very sensitive child who struggled to be heard. I did my best to express, yet most of the time it went unnoticed. Not because I wasn’t loved, just people didn’t understand it. From a young age I was fully aware of my emotions, yet I didn’t have the best tools to deal with them. I would go from lots of speaking and crying to isolation. Learning to bury pains and disappointments and pretend I was ok.
After many years of inner work and self-rediscovery I have finally learnt, for the most part, how to work with them. I’ve been to teachings and learnt practices in various philosophical and religious arenas in numerous parts of the world. I’ve been told the extremes of express everything to express nothing. All in which I found beneficial on some level. What I have discovered for myself is the simple act of ACKNOWLEDGING them. Now I do my best to consciously not block what comes up for me, as I realise it serves a purpose to help me evolve. I also now have the power and wisdom to not allow them to control me. I can understand and see the deeper meaning of what they are so I can more easily let them go. If it is something I need to share, I am able to do it from a mostly balanced and calm perspective. Its taken a lot to get to this point and I am so very grateful I’m here. Oh the DRAMA QUEEN I appeared to be to some! It wasn’t to be a drama queen, just to be heard and understood.
Every day we all experience various emotions and they can go from one extreme to the next. I understand this. It is undeniable. Emotions in general can hold a lot of power if left unattended to for too long. Now this can mean unattended by suppressing them or over indulging in them. Ultimately, neither of these approaches I have personally found beneficial. The emotions I suppressed caused illness and unhappiness, by indulging in my emotions I got attached and created dramas. Also resulting in illness and unhappiness. Can you relate? Can you see which way to go with your emotions? Are you a mix? I was.
What I have found now is the balance. I know the extremes do not work for my ultimate happiness, inner peace or clarity. So what do I do? How do I handle situations with the potential for my emotions to go one way or the other? I do not deny them nor focus on them.
Today I woke feeling unwell. As first I did a short “woe is me”, wouldn’t it to be nice to wake up full of energy. Then within a few minutes I chose to ACCEPT I was not feeling 100%, I told myself this won’t last as I always recover (so its momentary – impermanent). Which is true. I told myself its ok just to take it easy and go with the flow of the day, without pushing myself. I decided there was no need to put pressure on myself and just allow myself to heal in my body’s own time.
So what happened?
Instead of sulking or getting to the tasks on my to do list (which I do as I am inspired to), I made myself a healthy breakfast instead. While I was waiting for it to cook, I started to clean out a cupboard. Ten hours later I have finally stopped.
For someone who was feeling very unwell this morning and a little sorry for myself, I have had a truly productive and enjoyable day cleaning and sorting.
Through having the awareness to “Acknowledge” and “Accept” at the start of the day I was feeling lousy, I then gave myself the option of responding or reacting to it. So I chose to be kind and gentle to myself instead of beating up on myself or pretending I was fine and pushing myself to go out and be busy when it wasn’t right for me. I was naturally able to channel my energy and focus to something I could do at my own pace. Unexpected as it was.
In the past I would have put my focus on feeling lousy and literally talked myself into feeling more unwell and sorry for myself. I would have created a drama about it, hence it manifests into reality. Are you also guilty of this? Many of us do it without thinking. It’s an autopilot reaction.
So in essence what I have done today is CHOSEN not to allow my emotions to take control of me. I know for a fact, if I had, my day would not have been as productive or as fun as it turned out to be. By also following the flow of the day without questioning it, I kept myself from focusing on feeling unwell (giving it power) and my symptoms actually subsided.
This all takes practice and each day we are given opportunities to grow in awareness to become empowered through our chosen responses, not reactions. The blessing for me now is I know what to do. More and more I am creating this as a new, helpful habit. In the process I have had to practice and learn patience with myself. That’s a whole other segment! I think they could have made a few Mr Men or Little Miss characters from me. Little Miss Impatient and Little Miss Control Freak J
In today’s example I have used many tools, no one tool stands alone and Acknowledgement is one of many in my tool bag. Maybe you can see if you acknowledge or deny what comes up for you. Maybe you can see if you are responding or reacting to life. What would you like it to be? There are many avenues for support to help you discover your own way.
In the coming weeks I will expand on my personal process, share my experiences and offer tools to help raise your awareness and assist your expansion further.
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