How I’ve learnt to ride the Wave. Pt. 4 ACCEPT WHAT IS!

As mentioned in my last note, this week I will discuss further the tool of ACCEPTING WHAT IS, as it has applied to my experiences and expansion.

For many people, previously myself included, the notion of ACCTEPING WHAT IS (remember I am referring to in the moment) can sound very disempowering, as it appears on the surface to solidify an event, situation, experience, emotion etc. Though over the years and through my personal expansion, I see this is not the case at all.

Let me give you an example. If I was to say to myself years ago “I accept this situation which I do not like, which makes me feel weak, unhappy, angry, used, unworthy, ugly etc.”, the last thing I would want to do is ACCEPT IT. Why would I? It’s not a nice experience I am experiencing. I don’t want to accept it because I do not like it. It hurts, I am suffering. Accepting it just sounds ridiculous. Do you agree?

In the times when I’ve hit what felt like rock bottom (and it’s been a few), if you said “Just ACCEPT IT Tracy”. My reaction would not have been pretty. I would protest and claim how I am a victim, “they” did this to me, and “they” created this situation. Or quite the opposite, going into self-loathing, “How could I have…. Done this…. Said that ……”. Hence judging and criticizing myself harshly.

You would have to agree, this was not a healthy pattern for myself or those around me. Maybe you can see this taking place in your own life or others around you (if so, please do not create judgement).

As I started my inner journey I began to recognise myself while I was doing it, I knew to stop it, however the behaviour and thought patterns were so strong, so engrained into my way of being, I wasn’t able to pull myself out of it. Can you relate?

Sometimes it was like a part of me actually left my body in these moments. This part floated above me and I was observing myself, what I was saying and how I was reacting. I would have these 2 realities taking place at once. One making a drama, the “damsel in distress” and the other saying “Tracy, take a chill pill, it’s all fine, why are you getting so worked up?”!! To be honest, at the time, this frustrated me immensely.

Why was I frustrated? Because I was aware what I was doing was not really helpful, I was creating my own suffering (though it was part of my journey, so from this perspective it was a pivotal point of change). I recognised I no longer wanted to be playing the part of “damsel”, yet I just wasn’t ready to change it and take responsibility for my life and the experiences I was creating.

However with all the inner development work I have done over the years and continue to do, the unlearning and relearning, the stronger I have become. As a result is has made me solid in my heart directed path and I now view all of my experiences, past and present as opportunities for my own evolution.

So now when I make the conscious choice to ACCEPT WHAT IS, in the moment, I am taking an empowered stand point. My perspective has completely changed and I can take responsibility for myself. Responsibility for my thoughts, my actions and my words. No longer am I able to place blame. It’s so liberating!!!

That’s not to say everything goes the way I want it to, though it’s so much easier now I’ve learnt to let go, reduce expectations and trust more (these will be addressed in future notes). It simply means I am now better able to drop the resistance, the justifications and the excuses. By doing this I am then able to CHOOSE a new perspective, take a different action, create a more uplifting thought or speak more positive words. It’s creating a new pattern.

Have I perfected this in every moment? No. What I have done is accepted this is a daily awareness which I have learnt to embrace more and more, as life is always giving us opportunities to test ourselves for expansion. The more I keep myself in check, the better able I am to maintain a higher perspective of life, existence and how I would like to experience it. I have accepted, it ALL COMES DOWN TO ME!!

Now if you are just starting your inner journey, this may seem too much, yet in time, when your resistance releases, you may also come to this realization. It takes a brave soul to go into your depths and claim all which you are. It can seem at times like you are sinking down into the dark, yet rest assured, this is where the good stuff can be found. This is where the trigger for awareness can really kick in and once you come to the brighter side of it, after all the suffering and pain you may have been experiencing, you will be able to see it from the higher perspective and realize how beneficial it has been on your journey to self-discovery. It’s a journey we all must take, so I encourage you to find the tools and supports best suited for you. We all need them and they will change and evolve as you do. So be brave and step forth into the limitless and loving being which you are.

I trust this short note has been of benefit to you.

In the coming weeks I will expand on this and other tools to help raise your awareness and assist your expansion further.

I am Tracy Radley, a healer by heart and a leader by trait. I offer you is honesty, integrity and passion in all my interactions with you. May my discoveries be of support and inspiration as you further awaken to your own uniqueness and power.

I invite you to check in on my posts as I unveil to you my journey back to the light. If you have any general questions, please feel free to post them in the comments.

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Many blessings to you, Tracy ox



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